How to get him back in my life?

Hello there! Here's my story, some of you may find it pathetic, some may have been there too..First of all , i would very much appreciate honest advice from mature people who know a bit about life,love and relationships.I met this wonderful man in march this year ,we dated for 2 and a half months ,the most wonderful months in my life,although i have been in long term relationships before,never felt what i felt when i was with him.He used to call me every night and talk for at least half an hour ,used to spend every weekend together,had lots of fun,had great intimate moments,we were perfect together..he showed me respect and was very sweet and caring,he even told me things from his life he's never told anyone,not even his best friends,because he said he trusted me and felt like i was the right person he could open like that to.Then after a while he started to pull back, the phone calls weren't so often anymore,the weekends were shorter and he became more apathetic and less caring.Out of the blue he finally told me he wanted a break,needed time for himself,he is not good bf material anyway and that he doesn't want a relationship in his life right now and he has no love to give at the moment.He said he has a lot going on in his life,problems at work,family...and he couldn't give me the attention i needed anyway,so we split up.Of course, i made the big mistake to cry and get emotional and tried to convince him to give it another try etc,but he totally refused.He said he cared about me a lot and we can stay friends,but that would be all.He is 30 and he never had a relationship longer than 2-3-4 months,which i found strange,but he said he was always like that,he is not good in relationships,because he is not good bf material.I thought that was all bs ,because he mentioned he was in love with someone last year and she left him,he was really hurt , so i suspect he could have had a relationship with that woman if she loved him back,and now he is afraid he might get hurt again if we started to become more serious...he actually mentioned that if we continue seeing eachother ,one of us will get hurt eventually and he doesn't want that.I really don't know what to believe anymore... i gave him the time he wanted,i haven't called,emailed or txt himfor the past 3 weeks,he called me twice since we broke up,but we didn't talk much,he just wanted to see how i was doing and that was all..He told me he will never forget me and that i was a special genuine person..he used to be so loving and used to tell me nice things,and even bring me breakfast in bed..and then BAM! 180 degrees change...I just don't get it... I am wondering,will he ever come back to me and start dating again after he's had all this time off ?Did he even mean everything he said and done while we were together?i know he wouldn't tell me the truth if i asked him, but his behaviour was so confusing that i don't know what to think anymore.Maybe some of you have experienced similar feelings and situations before and know what i am talking about and know how to deal with it..please ,teach me .. I do love him , even if we were together for such a short time,i felt we had that special connection,and i don't want him back just because he rejected me, i really love him.. i wish he felt the same, but i don't know that.. his behaviour for the first few months told me he was falling for me(maybe that's what scared him?),but then he changed completely.. Help!!!! thanx