Is Soy Really Healthy?

I've had problems with it and so have my women friends. Early pre-menopausal symptoms, and I've heard it can effect a mans libido from one person. My holistic doctor found some info on how it can cause intestinal irratation after I started getting cracks on my tongue. I use it sparingly now. Seitan (wheat gluten), almond or rice milk, might be an option for somethings. I use 2tlbs organic almond er, 5 cups water in a blender with agave & a pinch of sea salt